I've been doing a lot of reading and learning too! This article on "regrets" came from the internet and I thought it was pretty helpful and wanted to share it with you. I call them do-overs because we'd all like a chance at something we regret to do it over. Right? Well some of those we obviously cannot do-over and some of our regrets can be a chance to learn from and put them in the past and move forward with a new way of thinking and doing.
I'm having a "do-over" with one of my children and it couldn't be sweeter. How blessed we are to be able to have a do-over. God is so good sisters. I so wish I could have a do-over with my son Jake and with my mom but I can't so rather than suffer and get mired down with regrets, I want to turn these regrets into a positive and not feel the need to have another do-over with those I love.
There is no such thing as a life without any regrets. However, regrets can become either burdens that intefere with your present happiness and restrict your future, or motivation to move forward. If you find yourself overcome by regrets, here are some steps that should help you integrate them.
1. Determine what your regret really is. Do you regret something you did or something you didn't do? Something someone else did or did not do? A circumstance beyond your control? It is important to step back from the feelings of regret and identify exactly what the regret is.
2. Ask for forgiveness and make amends. Apologize for any harm you may have caused others, it does not kill to ask for forgiveness so give it a go! Forgive yourself. Forgiving others will make you happier. Be compassionate toward everyone involved including yourself.
3. Accept the circumstances. Avoid blaming others but rather take responsibility for anything that you could have better handled.
4. Deal with toxic relationships. Sometimes other people cause us to do things that leave us with serious regrets. Do you have a toxic relationship that needs to be addressed or severed?
5. Grieve for your regrets. When we feel regret, we re-live guilt, sadness or anger over and over again. Allowing yourself to experience these feelings fully with the intention of moving forward can help you stop revisiting them.
6. Recognize what you have learned or gained. When you find yourself thinking of the regret, turn your thoughts to the things you have learned and the opportunities that are now yours - even if they are not what you would have preferred. There is always a lesson even in pain and sadness. Look for the lesson and focus on it instead of what might have been.
7. Write out a plan or agreement for yourself that identifies how you could avoid having this sort of regret in the future.
And uh.........by the way if I could do it all over and find new bloggy sisters I'd say "ARE YOU CRAZY.................?" Cause you girls are the bestest ever and I just love you all to pieces!